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Changes: Date Night

A few years ago my husband Dan and I established a Monday night date night.  For years I resisted the idea:  too much money, not enough time, didn’t want to be away from the kids, didn’t want to clean the house for the babysitter (!!).   But as our family grew, so did the need to spend time together where we could actually complete a sentence and not have food wiped on us.   So Mondays became our night; we would eat out and then do some errands.   We quickly found our favorite spots and our favorite dishes.

After my “aha moment” in January, those favorite dishes weren’t going to cut it anymore, and the date night meal became quite depressing agonizing.  I started to look at menus differently and began to see how the calories added up:  the bread before the meal, REAL sour cream and butter, cream sauces, breaded mushrooms (but I digress), etc.  Everything really added up!  I also realized how little restaurants have to offer that is truly healthy.  When you really look at the details and ingredients, not much is low-calorie or heart healthy.

My date nights changed.  Here are some of the things that I have done to make the meal part a little less agonizing and little better for the scale:

1.  Checked menus on-line before I went to the restaurant.  Some have great nutritional tools that let you add and subtract certain ingredients from the meal, and they will give you all the nutritional information.   It is shocking to see some of the numbers.

2.  Cut out the bread before the meal and in the entree.  I no longer ordered sandwiches and carb-heavy items.  I looked for fresh salads, fruits, etc.  Some restuarants allow you to get a taco or sandwich as a salad instead.

3.  Got salad dressing on the side.  I found that I really only needed half what they gave me.

4.  Asked my server to hold items I didn’t want like bacon, cheese, rice, croutons, etc.  That can really keep your calorie count down.

5.  Drank water or a diet soda instead of soda or tea.

6.  Skipped dessert.  Not always easy with those dessert menus right in front of you!!   Dan and I would just get a little chocolate later and split it (peanut M&Ms became a favorite!).

7.  Chose items that were grilled, steamed, baked, etc. instead of fried or breaded.  Not always fun, but so much better for you!

8.  Stayed away from all-you-can-eat and buffets.  Ooh, boy!  That can be bad for a girl that likes to get her money’s worth!

9.  Saved certain restaurants and meals for special occasions.

10.  Focused on the conversation not the food!

These are just some of the things that I have done.  Not every date is perfect, but I’m better than I was a year ago.  It’s just another reminder that food is not the celebration and that it’s the company I am with that is important (and the fingerprint-free pants!).

How has eating out changed for you?  What are some tips that you have?

 

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Must. Get. Motivated.

I have to admit today was a low (LOW!) motivation day.

I did NOT want to work out.

My morning was filled with cleaning, kiddos, and errands.  After lunch my Sam’s trip turned into a chicken cooking extravaganza.  I bought several pounds of chicken and instead of just freezing it all, I had about 7 meals cooking at the same time.  When I was done, I had several meals in the freezer, but I was tired, and of course, as soon as napland was calling so was my husband: “This is the only time today that you can work out.”  Ugh!

Like a grouchy sloth I went up to change into my work-out clothes, but all I really wanted to do was get in my bed!  I almost did.  But I remembered that thing called perseverance.  I really just wanted to ignore it!  I couldn’t though.  I knew that I had worked too hard over the last 7 months to give into laziness or fatigue (but oh how I wanted to!).

I did go to the gym, and as I was working out, I realized that I had had many days like this one.  It wasn’t something new.  I knew  that I would have many more.  But I also realized the importance of relying on what I had learned and the necessity of going through the motions even if I didn’t want to.  If I could just put one foot in front of the other, one exercise after another, eventually I would have a complete workout.  Some days it feels good to be done, and I feel better.  Other days I’m still tired but at least I did it!

So here are some things that might help beat the motivation blues:

-Get out the door:  put your work-out clothes on, put your shoes on, get the keys, and head out.  Don’t look back!

-Go through the motions.  Rely on the work-outs that you normally do; each step might get easier.

-Smile.

-Work out with a friend.

-Change up your routine.  Take a walk.  Swim.  Try the elliptical.  Box.

-Try group classes.

-Maybe enlist a trainer for added support.

-Add new music to your ipod.

-Find something on the tv that you like.

-Give yourself grace.

Am I the only one that feels this way?  I’m sure there are other good ideas out there.  Feel free to share!

This post was written a few weeks ago, but I certainly have days like this every week.  I would love to hear how you stay motivated!

 

 

 

 

I haven’t worked with a trainer since my boxing partner Ben left for Houston.  It’s just hard to try new things.

I’ve really missed boxing though.  Maybe a little too much.  The other night I was behind the curved wall at Miracles, and it was like the kick target was calling my name.  Hmm. . .

So I strapped it up to the ball rack (big no-no) and let it hang there.  At first I thought it was going to work.  I was able to get in a few good kicks.  But on the fourth I hit my toe against the wall (ouch!), and it struck some sense into me.  Guess I gotta get a trainer.  Better ask for help ( so hard!).

I went to the front desk and asked one of our trainers, Tyler,  to hold the kick target for me.  As he came around the wall, he noticed the target hanging from the ball rack.

“What are you doing?!”  He then proceeded with the speech about the ball racks and not hanging anything on them.  “We’re here to help!”  I know!  I know!!  Desperate times call for desperate measures, right?

He held up the target for me, and it really felt good to kick again.  I did several with my right leg and was ready to move on.

“Now left leg,”  Tyler instructed.

“No, I don’t do my left leg.  It’s too weak.  I can’t get good kicks with it.”

“Now left leg, ” he said again.

Thinking he couldn’t hear me I repeated, “No, I’ll just do the straight kick with my right foot.  I don’t do left leg.”

“Now left leg.”  Ok, I get it.  His hearing is just fine; this is a tug of war.  Left leg, no.  Left leg, no.  Left leg, no.  Until . . .

“Ok!  Left leg!”  I proceeded with some left leg kicks that weren’t great, but they were good enough to get exercise.  And guess what?  It wasn’t so bad.  It didn’t kill me.  It was still fun.

I think I learned a few things:  our trainers have different styles, our trainers are there to help, they want what is best for us, our trainers know how to challenge clients when they don’t know they need to be challenged, and . . .

Tyler’s hearing is just fine!

 

 

 

 

 

I am heading home this weekend to Southern Illinois to celebrate my Grandma’s 90th birthday.   She still lives alone, she drives, she serves her church, and she is beautiful inside and out (she has the most beautiful peaches and cream skin!).  Her faith and her dedication to her family make her an inspiration to me.  I look forward to celebrating her with family and friends.  I also want to glean some aging wisdom from her while I’m there!  Hopefully, I will gather enough to share with you.  Are there any questions you would want to ask her?

A couple of days ago I came home from Miracles after a work-out, and I was still a little pumped up, not really ready to be done. So I asked the kids if anyone wanted to learn how to do leg lifts with me.

“Me!! Me!!” shouted across the room, and four out of my five joined me (the 2-year-old was hilarious). So we all lined up on the carpet at the edge of the kitchen, and they all gave it their best shot. Their legs were going up and down, and they all wanted approval.

“Is this right, Mom?”

“Watch me!”

“Look how good I can do it!”

I realized in that moment of home-group-fitness that they enjoy being active with me and Dan. It’s fun to them! They need the invitation, the challenge, the instruction, and the encouragement from us, and they’re ready and willing. It was fun to be a part of it and to set an example for them.

I also realized that I need the same things: I need the invitation and challenge sometimes to be active and to try new things, and I need proper instruction, verification, and encouragement. It’s a reminder to allow people on this journey with me and to surround myself with people who support me, help me, and make it fun.

“What’s next, Mom?” one of them asked. I only hope that I can have the same attitude!

5 suitcases? – check!
2 boxes of food?-check!
Snacks? – check!
Diapers? – check!
Wipes? – check!
Paper towels? – check!
Books, mad libs, music, pencils? – check, check, check, check!

The list to get out the door for a family of 7 can be intense but for an 8-night road-trip to Colorado, it’s like its own extreme sport. And I don’t usually win the gold, but I do manage to remember most of the essentials (I have been known to forget a kid’s underwear or pajamas before-oops). For this trip I not only had to have everything physically ready, I had to be mentally ready. I needed to have a food plan, which I talked about in my previous post, and I needed to have a fitness plan. I really didn’t want this vacation to sabotage everything I had done the 4 months prior.

My plan was to rely mainly on the fitness centers in the hotels where we would stay and the hiking we would do in the Rocky Mountains. Our first night stay went okay.  Not perfect, but okay. We swam with the kids, and I tried to use the fitness facility. I had forgotten that the pictures on Expedia may not show the details like dirt or how ancient the exercise equipment is. Hmmm . . . well, a few minutes on the elliptical and then some circuit training.

Then on a brisk May day we arrived at the YMCA of the Rockies in Estes Park.  As I was sitting in the car waiting for my husband to check-in,  I was wondering what the fitness center would be like and how soon I would get there.  Then my husband came back and informed me that the fitness center was closed for renovation. Excuse me?  Pardon me?  I must be hearing you wrong.  Ok, I admit, a little panic rushed through me (A little type A? Yep, you guessed it.). I knew we would be hiking, but many of the trails would be child-friendly and at a child’s pace. What would I do?  I would just have to do my best and rely on the things that I had been learning over the past few months.

On day 2 of our cabin stay, I had a couple of hours to myself while the kids were swimming and the baby (he’s 2, but he’s my baby) was napping. I decided to do some circuit training. I didn’t have weights or anything so I used a jar of Ragu and a can of baked beans for my bicep blasters. I was just hoping no one could see through the window! I used the back deck for my walking lunges and the stairs for box jumps. I did push-ups, reverse lunges, leg lifts, ab work, etc. all under the gaze of a big, stuffed deer head, affectionately called Bullwinkle by previous visitors.

I kind of surprised myself. I know it doesn’t sound like that big of a deal, but 5 months before, I never would have done any of those things. Work-out? On vacation? Outside? Where people can see me? No way! But this experience showed me evidence of five months of hard work and a real change in myself. The confidence, change, and commitment that I had paraded around in my head as a theme were becoming a reality. It felt good. There under the Rocky Mountains it felt good to take the time to reflect and to be thankful and to feel strong.

I did another work-out like that while we were there, and we hiked a lot. The way back home was not as great because we were in a hurry to get home, but I felt overall that I did fine. I had accomplished more than I would’ve 5 months ago, and that in itself was good. The vacation had not sabotaged my journey. I know I can travel differently now when it comes to food and exercise.

And I know that I’ll never look at another can of Bush’s Baked Beans the same again. : )

 

 

 

We recently made the long trek to Estes Park, Colorado, with our 5 kiddos. Just the thought of packing us all up and not forgetting anything was a little daunting, but even scarier was the thought of all the fast food and snacks that might hinder my progress and end up in my kids’ bellies. I knew that I would not be able to be perfect (it is a vacation after all), but I wanted to do the best that I could to not gain weight and to feed my family well.

So I entered the Don’t-Go-Crazy-on-Vacation challenge armed with a notebook, a pen, and my computer. I started planning about 3 weeks ahead of our scheduled departure. I knew that we would have a kitchen in our cabin in Colorado, so I planned out our meals for each night and gradually filled 2 copy paper boxes with dried goods. I also stocked what I could for breakfast, lunch, and snacks (100 calorie packs for me-thank you). Then I made a list of all the fresh or refrigerated items that we would need and planned a stop in Colorado to purchase that before we headed to our cabin.

I felt like I had our cabin meals under control, but what about the fast food? For our first meal on the road, we packed a picnic lunch, which we ended up eating in a downpour in Hannibal, Missouri, but that was a fast food meal diverted.

Next, I knew that we would stop in Grand Island, Nebraska, to celebrate our 2nd son’s 10th birthday, and he picked his favorite –Fazoli’s. So before we left, I visited their website and checked calorie counts. I didn’t decide what I wanted right then and there, but I did have a general idea. I ended up getting a nice salad with low cal dressing and passed on the breadsticks (except for a bite!). The meals on the return-side of our trip were not planned and more random, so I didn’t do as well (sometimes you just want a burger), but overall, I kept it under control and didn’t have too much guilt.

So I think what worked best for me and my family was to control the situation. We planned ahead, we made as many of our own meals as we could, we investigated fast food menus, and we allowed for fun treats along the way. We not only ate fairly balanced meals, but we also saved some money along the way. Saved some calories, saved some cash, and had mostly happy campers!

Guest Post by Ben Clutter from MidwestFit

I started training with Jen in mid-April.  I have never consistently laughed that much in a training session, and not just the first session, but every session after that. It was usually a shared laughter stemmed from either some type of punch, kick, or story revolving around the newest fad in the fitness industry: Kitchen Boxing – Eclipsed with the Motivational Tunes of Rihanna.

That’s right, training sessions are supposed to be both fun and extremely efficient, which is one thing that makes Miracles Fitness stand out from the rest. In just 10 minutes on that day in April, Jen had become my new client. The first 10 minutes were spent on the very basics: feet positioning, hand positioning, and the quick 1,2 combo punch. Before I knew it, a couple sessions had passed and my hands were being assaulted with a flurry of 1,2,3,4 combos at different levels intermixed with explosive side-kicks that I’m fairly certain could take down a sturdy oak tree.

However, there was a boxing anomaly among us-the dreaded 3 punch.  It is a tight, short, low-cross torso shot that Jen had mastered in the realms of kitchen boxing, but when the glove came to pad, the form went bad. The majority of the laughter from our boxing sessions occurred shortly after a 3 punch or even sometimes in the process of a 3 punch. Luckily, the power behind her 4 punch made up for what Jen had cleverly christened as the “Popeye Punch.”   She had progressed extremely quickly and became such an excellent/powerful boxer that my hands would be sore the next day after our boxing sessions!

Unfortunately for our last 2 scheduled sessions, Jen had developed a nagging injury preventing her from beating up on me. To look on the positive side, she finally gave in to persisting fear that was acting as a barrier to her fitness goals! She was finally ready for another shot at working with a trainer.

The next 2 sessions were just as Jen described:  full of laughing, complaining, and different exercises that were able to challenge her in a way she was not quite used to. Yes, there was an exercise set where I was asked to avert my eyes, but at the time Jen was unaware of the fact that I was scanning my peripherals to make sure her form was correct 😉 In just two training sessions, Jen was able to improve upon fitness goals that had been eluding her in recent days and of her younger, joyous high school years! We had not practiced these exercises once in our previous boxing sessions. Amazing what a few boxing and more importantly, confidence-boosting sessions are capable of producing beyond the physical attributes commonly associated with a training session!

I have moved on to new challenges in my life, but unfortunately Jen has not had the opportunity to get back on track with boxing. I am confident that she knows the basics well enough to keep mixing boxing into her training regimen. So next time you see her, help fill the motivational void left by me and be sure to ask two things, “When are you getting a heavy bag, and how is the boxing going?”

Ben Clutter was a former trainer at Miracles Fitness in West Lafayette, IN.  He graciously agreed to write a response to my posts about boxing and training with him.  Ben is currently working in Houston, Texas, as a Health Fitness Specialist for MediFit/Halliburton.  Ben is also the Co-founder/Admin of the blog MidwestFit (www.midwestfit.com).  Check it out for great fitness tips and challenging workouts!

Be watching for a guest post from my former trainer Ben next week.  We’ll get his side of the story about training with me (me, challenging?!).   For now you can check out his blog, MidwestFit.com here: www.midwestfit.com.

In my previous post, I shared with you how I went a little crazy for boxing. Well, I knew the countdown was on since Ben, my trainer/boxing coach, was leaving. I scheduled 4 boxing sessions with him the week before he was leaving. On my 2nd session with him that week, I hurt my pinkies. I’m still not sure what happened, but I wasn’t able to box for the last 2 sessions (I was so bummed).

So I gave into one of my fears-personal training. I had tried a few sessions the summer before (That trainer moved away, too. Hmm . . .) and learned a lot, but wasn’t eating right and gained weight. So I was a little weary of personal training again. Ben had built my trust though, and I knew I could tell him if I absolutely didn’t want to do something. Honestly, at this point I did want the challenge.

Ben had me doing walking lunges, leg lifts, bicep blasters, reverse lunges, SQAT JUMPS (ugh!), step-ups, and things I can’t even name. I whined the whole time. I complained. I even made him turn the other way during the squat jumps! Just too embarrassing! Okay, so maybe Ben was challenged, too.

Even through all the complaining and whining, I was glad that I was up for the challenge. I could feel that I was getting stronger and doing things that I could not have done four months before. I did a plank for a minute that day. I chest pressed more than I have since high school. I did flutter kicks for a minute (not very well-but I did it!). My “aha” moment was in action and creating results.

Our next and last session was more of the same except I did try to whine less and just grit my teeth more. Again, I did things that I didn’t want to do but felt better afterwards (and sore the next day!). I am still doing a lot of what Ben taught me, and I find myself more willing to challenge myself and try things that are harder because hey-I might just surprise myself and be able to do it!

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